If your girlfriend was saying this to another guy what would you do?

**higherdesire** · 04-28-2009, 05:28 AM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

Dude like 3 days ago they did a whole half hour on the benefits of testosterone .
Dr. Phil is the man.. well not really but sometimes he does have good shows.

And judge judy too, shes a total gilf.

Ha HA gilf! Judge is spelled with a "j" gackass!

**higherdesire** · 04-28-2009, 05:39 AM

to the op, what is the real question here? IMHO htere is no doubt that she isn't ready to marry, and she isn't faithful to you. SO do you really want to know if you go forward will it be alright anyway? I feel for you bro, love can be a bitch when it is one sided. Have you asked yourself why she is even with you if she needs this emotional stimuli form outside the relationship? She is just not that into you. She is getting some kind of reward though which mean she is taking avantage of some benefit.

**Misery13** · 04-28-2009, 06:12 AM

Originally Posted by notus

it hurts.... we were talking marriage

they all talk marriage...

...punish her...

**hero717** · 04-28-2009, 06:13 AM

hey man i just broke up with my girl we were talking marraige too but think about it this way...u cant build anything without trust and respect...how would she act if u were caught sayin this to another girl...i would say dump her but im sure its not that easy cause she means a lot to u...think about it if u can get over it and talk it out about how she was an idiot and she actually realizes u can try to fix thing...think about yourself man....i know i dont want to end up divorced thats why i ended it with my girl

**jfalco** · 04-28-2009, 07:40 AM

Bitch is clearly playing games. She obviously wanted you to see the flirting.

I have no idea what she might have been hoping to acomplish, but nobody is dumb enough not to realize this would cause problems. Sounds like she needs to grow up and is very insecure. I doubt she's interested in the tantric stretching blue moon drinking sissy. If she was she would hide the flirting, not rub your face in it.

Anyway if you like putting up with bitches playing games, then have at it. She is probably pretty stuck on you if she goes to these lengths to make you jealous. Personally I don't have time for that crap.

I disagree with all the folks who think she is cheating. Usually people try to hide it when they cheat. They don't say here's my face book password. Look at all my flirting.

BTW if you feel the need to spy on this girls face book, you must be pretty insecure in the relationship too, and it wouldn't have worked out even if you didn't stumble on the flirting.

**sigman roid** · 04-28-2009, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by prone2rage

I am sure it does bro, but it is going to hurt more later....

its better you find out now bro than later when you have kids with this bitch

**CHAP** · 04-28-2009, 09:11 AM

Hey my wife and I are on a last chanc3e trust thing . We have both beedn back and forth. Marred almost 8 year togather almost 15 and two kids. It's the last time. One fu2k up and were both going to walk. If your not married you need to walk you have no strings attached. And there r good wemon out there. Oh and if she aint screwing this guy she sounds like she will . Be smart don't think just damn leave . in a couple mths you'll look back and say "i'mm glad I did that".

**eatrainrest** · 04-28-2009, 09:17 AM

get outside and start doing work!

**calgarian** · 04-28-2009, 09:49 AM

Sorry to hear that Bro.....one thing to remember when u confront her...she is going to come back with " I was testing you if u trust me to check my facebook" be prepared for that. I fvcking hate face book any way.
Remember that Men marry women thinking they will change . Women marry man thinking they will change. I married my high school sweet heart and she changed not the same way its just that her house and kids comes first to her I am faded away.

**vpchill** · 04-28-2009, 09:55 AM

I tried Marriage, Women have too Many emotions. They too insecure. I havent met a Man yet who isnt insecure but our insecureties differ from Women.
You gotta make yourself happy 1st before you can attempt to make any one else happy

RA · 04-28-2009, 09:59 AM

so? update?

**Z-Ro** · 04-28-2009, 10:08 AM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

I honestly 100% thought this thread was a joke till I read the OPs second post and realized it wasn't.

The problem you face now is what decision qualifies as overkill and what decision qualifies you as a doormat.
*IF* you go communicate with her theres a good chance she'll minimize it as harmless texting with no intention.

Thats lovely, but simple fact is people who "talk marraige" (and are serious) DO NOT go off and talk taking shirts off and drinking Blue Moons (which is the worst fvckn beer ever made I'd lose her on that alone).

This is what I recommend.
Don't make a huge deal about it.

But absolutely make her feel an emotional disconnect. If you pull back and disconnect you can test how connected she was in the first place.

And I hate fvckn cliches but this is def one of those "if you love something let it go and it doesn't come back it never was yours" situations.
Don't throw any labels on what you do like if she asks "are you breaking up with me" just say "no, I really just need time by myself to think about things".

Women hate that shit, but she caused it. Just put it this way.
Imagine your on doctor phil and he read this text message to the audience and asked them to raise their hands if they thought it was right or not.

I guarantee most if not all would aggree that only a pushover would tolerate shit like that. And when you tolerate low quality behavoir you create a low quality life for yourself. Time to reevaluate some things, not just her but yourself. Because when things like this happen theres usually things before that happened that you may have swept under the carpet cause of your own insecurities.

Great post!

And as Bojangles stated, you cannot be afraid to ride the emotional rollar coaster. We have all been shit on by women (or even men in some cases)...I just accepted the fact that I got "punked" and do what I have to do. It is going to hurt, don't push away from the pain, you have to accept the pain.

The easiest way to get over a girl is to start fresh! I am not advocating you go out and **** some random girl either. I am just saying the best way to get over the old is to start with the new! Carpe diem!

**Panzerfaust** · 04-28-2009, 10:46 AM

Originally Posted by notus

it hurts.... we were talking marriage

Then you have some seriosu growing up to do then. How old are you?

Its apparent she has no loyalty or respect for you.

Time to move on and be thankful you found this out beforehand and also before you had a kid with her.

**mxkevin** · 04-28-2009, 10:48 AM

i second every one elses opion but i too had the same probable and its never been the same walk away it will feel better in the long run

**mho** · 04-28-2009, 10:51 AM

Originally Posted by higherdesire

Ha HA gilf! Judge is spelled with a "j" gackass!

I think he meant grandmother

**Gears** · 04-28-2009, 10:56 AM

I know how this goes bro, you have to be strong. You can either deal with months of emotional misery, or years of it. It will only get worse and harder to break off, take care of yourself and get out.

**xavier_888888** · 04-28-2009, 11:14 AM

F her mom and then dump her .

**vpchill** · 04-28-2009, 11:17 AM

Man Up and Walk it Off Bro. You be ok.

**PittBoy** · 04-28-2009, 12:58 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

So she gave you the password then went ahead and flirted anyway ? Is she a blonde ?

I'm guessing he probably found those in the sent items folder. Most people forget to delete those. Everyone I know that has been busted that way has forgotten about the sent folder.

And if she left all that stuff there after the password exchange then WOW.

Obviously a line was crossed. I'd see how far it went before I made a decision.

**eatrainrest** · 04-28-2009, 01:45 PM

Originally Posted by xavier_888888

F her mom and then dump her .

this would be perfeect

**Matt** · 04-28-2009, 02:37 PM

**DSM4Life** · 04-28-2009, 04:06 PM

**Polska** · 04-28-2009, 04:36 PM

Dump her w/o a second thought mang. there are so many other fish in the sea it's ridiculous

**jamyjamjr** · 04-28-2009, 05:50 PM

Originally Posted by notus

it hurts.... we were talking marriage

flip it man....

go find a bitch... have her lick that 6 pack youve got going on while she plays with your balls and post it on her facebook wall.. see how she reacts to that...

that fcuking ****.... fcuk that bitch...

u stay faithful to a woman, give her your heart and she turns around and pulls this shit???

go fcuk as many women as you can and make sure she knows about it..

shit, i'd bring a chick home while she's sleeping and **** her in the same bed... that fcuking skank...

i hate bitches like that... dump that bitch.... then slit her throat..

iv got a shovel and some lime salt.. id be honored to help u find a spot in the desert...

fcuk i hate women like that....

and they wonder why i wont commit.....

**IronReload04** · 04-28-2009, 05:57 PM

dude.....Her little joking is neither cool nor funny. Its just as simple as that for me. Thats not the kind of shit I personally would put up with.

**eatrainrest** · 04-28-2009, 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by jamyjamjr

flip it man....

go find a bitch... have her lick that 6 pack youve got going on while she plays with your balls and post it on her facebook wall.. see how she reacts to that...

that fcuking ****.... fcuk that bitch...

u stay faithful to a woman, give her your heart and she turns around and pulls this shit???

go fcuk as many women as you can and make sure she knows about it..

shit, i'd bring a chick home while she's sleeping and **** her in the same bed... that fcuking skank...

i hate bitches like that... dump that bitch.... then slit her throat..

iv got a shovel and some lime salt.. id be honored to help u find a spot in the desert...

fcuk i hate women like that....

and they wonder why i wont commit.....

i hope he doesnt take you seriously jam lol... you culd kinda make this the new eminem remix to his KIM song.. and call it jammy

**WARMachine** · 04-28-2009, 06:00 PM

Originally Posted by Brown Ninja

OJ both of them

I AM SERIOUSLY LAUGHING SO HARD MY SIDE HURTS...

**jamyjamjr** · 04-28-2009, 06:01 PM

Originally Posted by eatrainrest

i hope he doesnt take you seriously jam lol... you culd kinda make this the new eminem remix to his KIM song.. and call it jammy

lol..

when my ex cheated on me i ended up moving in with a porn star... let's just say her facebook wall was full of wonderful pictures of me, my hot ass porn star chick, and 5 of her friends on my dick....

that bitch came running back to me.. called me 1000 times.. 999 of them i had diff girls pick up the phone telling her i was to buzy getting my dick sucked to talk to her....

that skank.. i was faithful to her for 5 fcuking years... 5 years i never touched another women....

fcuk her.. i hope she fcukin rots...

take a lesson learned from me.. never trust a b i t c h

**vpchill** · 04-28-2009, 06:02 PM

Originally Posted by jamyjamjr

lol..

when my ex cheated on me i ended up moving in with a porn star... let's just say her facebook wall was full of wonderful pictures of me, my hot ass porn start chick, and 5 of her friends on my dick....

that bitch came running back to me.. called me 1000 times.. 999 of them i had diff girls pick up the phone telling her i was to buzy getting my dick sucked to talk to her....

that skank.. i was faithful to her for 5 fcuking years... 5 years i never touched another women....

fcuk her.. i hope she fcukin rots...

take a lesson learned from me.. never trust a b i t c h

Thats the Best advice ever!!!

**gixxerboy1** · 04-28-2009, 06:05 PM

get her naked and start to act like you are going down on her. Then use this on her vag

**fit4ever** · 04-28-2009, 06:13 PM

Originally Posted by jamyjamjr

lol..

when my ex cheated on me i ended up moving in with a porn star... let's just say her facebook wall was full of wonderful pictures of me, my hot ass porn star chick, and 5 of her friends on my dick....

that bitch came running back to me.. called me 1000 times.. 999 of them i had diff girls pick up the phone telling her i was to buzy getting my dick sucked to talk to her....

that skank.. i was faithful to her for 5 fcuking years... 5 years i never touched another women....

fcuk her.. i hope she fcukin rots...

take a lesson learned from me.. never trust a b i t c h

Life will throw you some unexpected curveballs. That's for sure. But revenge, bitterness, anger, jealousy, etc. is a choice. You CHOOSE to allow life's curveballs to get the best of you. But if you've brought your very best self to the table, then there's no reason in attemting to level the score. Because success is not always measured by winning the girl, the balance of your checkbook, the size of your biceps, etc.

What one does and turns to during tough times often reveals the true contents of his heart.

**jamyjamjr** · 04-28-2009, 06:15 PM

^^^^ the true contents of my heart got splattered all over the floor when that skank decided to be with another guy...

let that bitch hurt...

it's been 3 years and that skank is still calling me crying.,. telling me she wants me back...

**** her.. i have no room in my heart for skanks like that

**Lightsout2184** · 04-28-2009, 06:51 PM

Originally Posted by higherdesire

Ha HA gilf! Judge is spelled with a "j" gackass!

i dont think u know what a gilf is

**Panzerfaust** · 04-28-2009, 07:22 PM

Someone close this thread, common sense has been spoken and he should leave the stupid bitch!

Man up and accept it and honestly stop and appreciate that you found out about her beforehand. I'd rather go through a breakup with some bitch than a divorce with some bitch.

**vpchill** · 04-28-2009, 07:25 PM

^^^ Agreed. Close it down. Its a Wrap

**Immortal Soldier** · 04-28-2009, 08:08 PM

Apparently she stole his computer...

**F4iGuy** · 04-28-2009, 08:36 PM

Pull a spider man and post it up on you tube.

**J-Dogg** · 04-28-2009, 08:41 PM

Ummmmm Am I the only one wondering why she was picking him up for happy hour anyway?

It's apparently not just flirting on face book, they are planning on meeting for drinks.

They have to get liquored up to make a mistake, then place the blame on it.

**mho** · 04-28-2009, 08:43 PM

Originally Posted by jamyjamjr

lol..

when my ex cheated on me i ended up moving in with a porn star... let's just say her facebook wall was full of wonderful pictures of me, my hot ass porn star chick, and 5 of her friends on my dick....

that bitch came running back to me.. called me 1000 times.. 999 of them i had diff girls pick up the phone telling her i was to buzy getting my dick sucked to talk to her....

that skank.. i was faithful to her for 5 fcuking years... 5 years i never touched another women....

fcuk her.. i hope she fcukin rots...

take a lesson learned from me.. never trust a b i t c h

I don't believe you, let me see them pix!

**notus** · 04-28-2009, 08:47 PM

So we are obviously done. I wasnt as ass even though i wanted to be. Even though she completely crushed me i didnt want her to hurt. She had some issues, as we all do. I hope the best for her.... Who knows we will see what happens from here. Thanks for all your guys advice.