Question's on your life

[Razor]

Who here has the wife picket fence and the whole 9 yards
Kids, nice furniture and a real nice life, grown up get togethers not just party's your playing out still of your glory years in hs/college..

I'm almost 30 and have none of these things.. Am I missing out?

[AD]

thats deep man.

you're only missing out if you want it and dont have it.

if you dont want it in the first place, then count yourself lucky!

[Ares101]

That life style doesn't sound very fun, I'm more of a private gate entrance to the house, my own home gym, having a fiancée and partying once a week.... And I'm 100% happy with that! The white picket fence, perfect kids with a dog, get togethers, and working a desk job Just doesn't seem for me!

[Back In Black]

House, child, just about to set up my own business with my partner, when we socialise it is normally dinner and drinks. But then, I am 40.

At 30 I had a house, lived on my own, got wasted twice a week and enjoyed various ladies.

At 20 I was different again.

My life gets better not worse. 50 should be interesting!

[Honkey_Kong]

Who here has the wife picket fence and the whole 9 yards
Kids, nice furniture and a real nice life, grown up get togethers not just party's your playing out still of your glory years in hs/college..

I'm almost 30 and have none of these things.. Am I missing out?

Razr, I'm nearly 32 and just starting to get those things. I'm a guy, so except for a Laz-Z-Boy and a nice bed mattress, I really don't care too much about furniture. That's what chicks buy for the house.

You know about those "get togethers," they're fvcking lame and you'll dislike most of the people who attend yours. You only tolerate them at your house because your gf/wife wants to be socially active and so she throws them. Let me tell you this, you're going to remember those partying days and miss them.

A nice house is nice, but just remember that means more house work for you. I'm just glad we don't have lawns out here. Really, the only thing that makes it all worth it, is the girl I'm with because she's amazing. I can't speak about the kids just yet though.

Dude, the only way you're going to be happy with all that stuff, is if you're happy by yourself and without it.

Oh yeah, you also want to know something you're going to fvcking hate, the fuzzy shit in the bathroom. That carpeted cover for your toilet seat that makes the lid fall while you're trying to take a piss. And don't even think about getting rid of it.

[milky01623]

Im with steM on this at 41 I've got the package
Job I enjoy
2 loving kids
A beautiful wife (who nags a lot mainly about the cost of my supps lol)

BUT I played in the field when I was younger and I didn't marry until I was 32 so hey man just go with the flow and if things happen its fate
Just remember u can't miss it if u don't have it :-) :-)

[AD]

Im with steM on this at 41 I've got the package
Job I enjoy
2 loving kids
A beautiful wife (who nags a lot mainly about the cost of my supps lol)

BUT I played in the field when I was younger and I didn't marry until I was 32 so hey man just go with the flow and if things happen its fate
Just remember u can't miss it if u don't have it :-) :-)

i feel that you can't miss it if you don't want it.

remember the numerous threads by Redz? he's got it all but couldn't wait to get out.

so, what do you want?

[AD]

one more thing i need to ask you... whenever i hear such a question... first thing that pops in my mind...

have you been taking your meds?

kidding!

[cherrydrpepper]

This is a true story. Girl was pressuring me for marriage. I told my brother who is older than me I had never met anyone happily married that really had something I wanted. Seen a lot of fakers but no kissing/hugging/holdinghands for life type marriages. He said "no no, remember so-and-so?" talking about a couple we knew when we were teenagers. I said "Dude, they got divorced.." (you idiot) lol

[JAB1]

Im 33 and marrried for 1 year, been with wife about 4 or so. We have nice house, 2 cars, some toys and a cat. We both have great jobs that pay well. Things are the best they have ever been for me, and Im thankful. I came from a miserable broken home so I do not take anything for granted. I lived from 18 to about 28 pretty much like a rock star, lived in dif city every 6 months, made good money so I could play(too hard). I am very glad I took my time and sowed my oats. I have no regrets, but the single life was lonely and unfullfilling for me. I am passionate about being a good husband and some day a great father(something I never had), so I work hard at my life and marriage to make good decisions to support this. And I am happier than I ever was when I didnt have a care in the world and a dif girl every night, etc... So, no picket fences and do-goodey bullshit here, just a man that came up hard and wants to show those around me that with hard work and dedication I will not be a victim of my past...If my wife or anyone ese does not live up to that and it all falls down I can live with that, I was brd to survive, and all I can control is myself!!! I refuse to let my fears hold me back from jumping in with both feet, for that would be my demise...

[spywizard]

life teaches us that it's not the "things" we own but the experience that we have that make us who we are..

who told you (to be successful you needed all this) that you had no value unless you were able to have the "donna reed syndrome" type of life to be happy?? the advertisers on tv??

ever hear the saying "I need to find myself" there is a lot of meaning in that if you think about it, what makes me happy should not be the same as what makes you happy.. and vis versa..

[SEOINAGE]

31, have a fairly small house. Soon will have three kids. Not as financially successful as I aim to be. Have my own gym in my garage, nice dirt bikes, sold street bike, but still have to be careful with money, wife has the expensive vehicle, I drive junk.

As for the having get togethers, they mostly suck, live in a small town, my wifes friends husbands are usually retards. And most of the people I associate with are too busy for that kind of thing, not to mention when I have time off I don't want to spend it entertaining honestly.

Really though I feel like I could do much better and hope to either progress in my position, or if not start working towards being self employed. As for other things, being married is great, other than the sex. Kids bring a lot of fulfillment and I spend more time just playing with my daughter than hanging with any other people.

And I agree with everything honkey kong said, but I did get the fuzzy toilet seat cover removed, but then she put a toilet lock on the thing so i have to hold the seat up while I piss, so its even worse, (to prevent kid from playing in it, not for me.)

[FONZY007]

Married going on 3 years I'm going to be 31 wife going to be 24..

Both have good jobs, home since 2010

4 kids, 3 boys and a little girl..

Sex is still great, just the other day we did it 3 times... I'm getting to old for that lol...

Toys street bike, that's it ok cars, wife wants to get a Lexus in late 2012 or early 2013

[Dukkit]

Im 27. And Im just starting to try and settle down. After years of drugs, partying, sexing and whoring.

Finally started decorating my apartment. Ive lived all over the world, in many places and Ive never once decorated a place because I always figured Id be out of there soon.

Ive been with my girl for over a year. (Thats a record)

Ive started a few new hobbies that keep me busy and I enjoy a lot.

And Im looking into getting a better education and job so that I may have that white picket fence and a house. ( I really dont want a house cuz property taxes here are a joke and I hate mowing the grass) But Ill figure it out. lol

So no, I dont have it all yet. But Im trying.

[HitIt]

just crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentation of the women and you'll be good

[doxmaster]

Im 27. And Im just starting to try and settle down. After years of drugs, partying, sexing and whoring.

Finally started decorating my apartment. Ive lived all over the world, in many places and Ive never once decorated a place because I always figured Id be out of there soon.

Ive been with my girl for over a year. (Thats a record)

Ive started a few new hobbies that keep me busy and I enjoy a lot.

And Im looking into getting a better education and job so that I may have that white picket fence and a house. ( I really dont want a house cuz property taxes here are a joke and I hate mowing the grass) But Ill figure it out. lol

So no, I dont have it all yet. But Im trying.

could always just buy a triple wide trailer to dodge taxes my great uncle did that the irs tried to sue him because he put a foundation in and paneled over where the wheels so it looked like he had a regular house but since he kept the wheels on it its still considered a mobile home and he pays much lower taxes because of it.

[gixxerboy1]

the wife and i dont want kids. We do the grown up get togethers and also still go out and get fvcked up sometimes. Just because your old enough for one doesnt mean your to old for another.
We dont have a house. I really dont want a house. We both rather a nice townhouse

[Honkey_Kong]

Razr, you are believing way too much in the American dream of the wife kids, two-story in suburbia and dog. The dream is different for everybody and we all get towards ours at different rates. So don't be worried if you're not at the storybook American dream just yet. Just enjoy today while it's still here. Tomorrow will come and the time you spent today will be gone forever.

[FONZY007]

the wife and i dont want kids. We do the grown up get togethers and also still go out and get fvcked up sometimes. Just because your old enough for one doesnt mean your to old for another.
We dont have a house. I really dont want a house. We both rather a nice townhouse

No kids soon?

[gixxerboy1]

No kids soon?

HELL NO.
We were at our friends that had a new born. And my wife was holding it and talking all nice about kids and how she cant wait. I questioned her about that when we left. She said fvck no i dont want a kid. I was just being nice.

[awms]

I think most people follow the "rules" and play it safe because that's what their parents did, and that's what society wants, the only way to be truly be happy is to find your self, find your passion, and find a women who you are passionate about! If you have a job that your passionate about you will love waking up every day! If you find that one thing you love then give it 100% and you will be a better person for it! Every man I feel needs a good women who is passionate about! the girl who has your back no matter what, the girl who knows how to please you in bed, and the girl who doesn't put you down but brings you up, a girl who brags to her friends about you, and a girl who shares the same dreams as you....slutty one night stands come and go but a good women is hard to find!

Most people chase happiness instead of actually finding it....they think "once I have this job il be happy", they get the job and it becomes "once I get a house and a promotion and kids Il be happy" then they get all those things and think "once I retire il be happy" then they are 65 sitting at home, looking back on their life thinking "I wish I would have done more".

[Razor]

Wow lots of good feedback. Seems its 50/50 here with wanting the typical American dream and the care free lifestyle. I been married before. Had he big wedding and a kid on the way. Lost the kid during pregnancy. Lost he wife after that. Now I'm in San Diego living he carefree lifestyle for almost 3 years now ..but now im gonna be 30. The party scenario is sorting to wear on me.

All my friends from the service live back east and I the south. I look at there facebooks. All married engauged or in stable relationships. And they are younger than me. And I'm basically stuck in San Diego now. I already uprooted my life after the divorce and came to California. All my friends I made are out here. I just want to make a change but I don't know where to start. The girls out here are fluseys and flakes.

Not go mention my group of friends that like to party also like to fight. So everytime we go out I have to be ready..it is so old.

[gixxerboy1]

dont worry about what anyone else does. Some our friends have 3 kids and are our age. to me that is a nightmare. 30 is not old. I didnt get married till after 30. Its not the 50's anymore.

And there are good and bad girls everyplace. Start going to different places if you arent finding the type of girl you want

[Honkey_Kong]

Wow lots of good feedback. Seems its 50/50 here with wanting the typical American dream and the care free lifestyle. I been married before. Had he big wedding and a kid on the way. Lost the kid during pregnancy. Lost he wife after that. Now I'm in San Diego living he carefree lifestyle for almost 3 years now ..but now im gonna be 30. The party scenario is sorting to wear on me.

All my friends from the service live back east and I the south. I look at there faebooks. All married engauged or in stable relationships. And they are younger than me. And I'm basically stuck in San Diego now. I already uprooted my life after the divorce and came to California. All my friends I made are out here. I just want to make a change but I don't know where to start. The girls out here are fluseys and flakes.

Not go mention my group of friends that like to party also like to fight. So everytime we go out I have to be ready..it is so old.

You can always find new friends who don't do that. And you don't have to go partying to have a good time single. You can go fishing, dirt biking, rock climbing, sailing, join a baseball league and so on. A lot of those things you really can't do too easily if you're married with kids. I bet you most of your friends that are married aren't living that grand life they portray to other people.

Just find stuff you like to do and eventually you'll find others who like to do that stuff too.

[kif]

Yea man at 30 i owned a small house was still partying with the boys, now I'm 36 just got married 2 years ago we own our own business just bought a pretty big house, weve been trying to have kids not working out, that fine with both of us though. Were like Gixx we do the adult partys but we also go out to clubs once and a while and get crazy. I think SteM said it best as long as your life gets better every 10years your doing ok.

[BFM]

For me, its about the journey, the experiences. Life isnt a race, do things that make you happy. If you like bowling, go bowl. Have friends that like to do what you like doing, if you dont, find new friends. Its all a learning process...trial by error even. Experiment, take chances, start a business on a shoe string, struggle to make it a success. As I look back on my life, I feel good about the experiences, the people, the bonds, not really the material things ive acquired. When you find your zone...the woman will magically appear, dont go looking for her. The really good stuff happens when you arent trying to make it happen. You will figure it out as you go. Good luck.

[JohnnyVegas]

I have my version of the traditional "white picket fence" lifestyle. Married, no kids. I am on my second wife and doing a much better job this time around. Married too young the first time around. Have fun until you meet someone that makes you deliriously happy. Someone you have so much in common with that you rarely disagree.

[SexySweetheart]

Who here has the wife picket fence and the whole 9 yards
Kids, nice furniture and a real nice life, grown up get togethers not just party's your playing out still of your glory years in hs/college..

I'm almost 30 and have none of these things.. Am I missing out?

no wife,

• but that was a delibrate choise lol...husband thats dedicated/sexy/hard working/ high moral/funny as h3ll/ tentitive/ deals with my nutty gal moments with ease and rocks it out in bed
• no picket fence, or even yard for that matter lol
• grown up get together's dont happen now a days, but thats just cuz we are too busy, although we both know we can go out or have friends over at anytime with full support from each other
• have the kids (over rated IMO lol) and they are all moving out in 2 years yeaaawhooooo
• we are both going to college and moving forward our jobs yet also happy enough in where we are now
• I have the car I wanted the, furniture I liked, a job that suites me too a T, and am on Vice Pres list in college while Im taking double course load~ I FVCKING LOVE MY LIFE!

....and none of it would matter as much as it does, if I didn't have Tiger. I have never ever been as happy and content, yet driven as I am now with a man I love more than I ever though was possible.


I do crave the home the yard the picket fence...and we are in process of making it happen so I pleased with that ...

over all Im very happy with my life and how its played out ~ now Im just ensuring that the rest of my years with Tiger will have more financial freedom and cuddle vacation times, his drams are met and my dreams of many world adventures with him are met

its deff the people in your life that make the difference not the stuff

[Bonaparte]

HELL NO.
We were at our friends that had a new born. And my wife was holding it and talking all nice about kids and how she cant wait. I questioned her about that when we left. She said fvck no i dont want a kid. I was just being nice.

Hahaha! I can only hope to be so lucky one day...

[DeadlyD]

yup, wife, kids(2) house, mortgage, credit debt.....ect . I just turned 30, would I do it all over again?...probably not!!!

[Razor]

yup, wife, kids(2) house, mortgage, credit debt.....ect . I just turned 30, would I do it all over again?...probably not!!!

Ok I have a magic wand and I just gave you a second chance, what would you do? There has got to be a good feeling coming home to kids and a wife that love you, supper on the table and sex whenever you want it.

[songdog]

its all about being happy bro.Seems like you are doing well so if you wanted things to be different they would be.

[FONZY007]

HELL NO.
We were at our friends that had a new born. And my wife was holding it and talking all nice about kids and how she cant wait. I questioned her about that when we left. She said fvck no i dont want a kid. I was just being nice.

Lmao

[SexySweetheart]

Ok I have a magic wand and I just gave you a second chance, what would you do? There has got to be a good feeling coming home to kids and a wife that love you, supper on the table and sex whenever you want it.

baaaahahahaha sex when ever you want it ~ thats the funnest thing all day! ty sir

[SexySweetheart]

only thing I would have changed= staying in high school and than going for Masters rite after after BUT only if I I was promised to still have my kid and meet Tiger

[gixxerboy1]

Ok I have a magic wand and I just gave you a second chance, what would you do? There has got to be a good feeling coming home to kids and a wife that love you, supper on the table and sex whenever you want it.

Real life isnt like that for anyone i know. Kids are a ton of work. Most homes both parents are working. Juggling day care.Like i said its not the 50's. I cook sometime, wife other times. Sometime we dont eat together or see each other because by the time i get home from work she is already gone to work.

[SexySweetheart]

Real life isnt like that for anyone i know. Kids are a ton of work. Most homes both parents are working. Juggling day care.Like i said its not the 50's. I cook sometime, wife other times. Sometime we dont eat together or see each other because by the time i get home from work she is already gone to work.

agree
raz what you talking about...is the sweet moments of spouce and kids lol...the sweet moments are cherish (cuz they are so rear lol)
this is married life with kids=

[Brohim]

Ok I have a magic wand and I just gave you a second chance, what would you do? There has got to be a good feeling coming home to kids and a wife that love you, supper on the table and sex whenever you want it.

I am 30 and single. And it's great freedom. I can go out whenever I want. Most of my buddies are married and they complain about not getting any sex. LOL

[GetItHot]

OP, no you're not missing out. Think Al Bundy.

[DeadlyD]

Ok I have a magic wand and I just gave you a second chance, what would you do? There has got to be a good feeling coming home to kids and a wife that love you, supper on the table and sex whenever you want it.

I just read back my own reply, and thought to my self, ya I would do it again but with different choices, like waiting longer then I did to have kids and saving more money and not financing everything !!! but yes, it is nice 70% of the time to come home to a loving family, but fvck man, I would be so nice to come home to an empty quiet house, that I could do whatever I want! but just for maybe a week once a year?!? haha is that too much to ask?