Thread: wife cheated, honest opinions...
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03-04-2006, 10:28 AM #1
wife cheated, honest opinions...
now that ive got your attention, heres the scoop. need some MATURE advice. been together five years, she cheated three times, i cheated five. both still wanna stay together and are currently workin through things, the confessions were about a month ago. so this isnt the issue, the issue is that one of the guys was a guy she worked with and i could locate pretty easily.
should i seek retribution?
yes, she gave it up and made the decision to spread her legs so im not displacing my anger solely upon him... the problem i have is that he knew she was married. i was brought up NEVER to mess with an involved woman, especially someone married. am i old fashioned? i have made a lot of bad/violent decisions in my past and am trying to distance myself from that behavior as i get older, however nothing would make me feel better than to teach this guy what i already know, 'never fvck with a married woman!' however, this too has its repurcussions...
is this simply hurt pride i need to get over, or is it almost mandatory that this guy be dealt some vigilante justice?
been losin sleep over this... i get back in the country in a little over a month and would desperately like to have my head straight about it so any suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciated.
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03-04-2006, 10:29 AM #2
forgot to mention that the guy is also married.
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03-04-2006, 10:32 AM #3
Im not married so I cant empathize...but I think his wife should know if she doesnt already...good luck...Im sure youll get lots of replies...
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03-04-2006, 10:34 AM #4Originally Posted by NewKid
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03-04-2006, 10:34 AM #5Banned
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So let get this right
You have cheated on your WIFE (who you solomenly swore to be honest to till death do you part) FIVE times?
And your Cock-addicted wife cheated on you THREE times?
it seems like yall need to join a swinger's club or something because unless yall like tape one another banging other people, that is one disfunctional relationship bro. i pray to god no children are involved!
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03-04-2006, 10:38 AM #6Originally Posted by SVTMuscle
Last edited by bigbouncinballs; 03-04-2006 at 10:40 AM.
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03-04-2006, 10:39 AM #7
why be married if you both cheat....is it worth being together?
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03-04-2006, 10:40 AM #8
well theirs nothing "mature" about cheating 5 times.....
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03-04-2006, 10:41 AM #9
i think you are the one who can make the decision on what should be done
let's be honest you've both cheated on each other so you carn't be pissed with each other.
to be honest he new she was married and he still went head anyway in my eye's that's disrespectful to you
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03-04-2006, 10:42 AM #10Originally Posted by DamnYouMSN
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03-04-2006, 10:43 AM #11
you know to be honest i would blame your wife more than the guy... if anything you should only deal with your wife.
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03-04-2006, 10:44 AM #12Banned
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Originally Posted by bigbouncinballs
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03-04-2006, 10:46 AM #13Originally Posted by SVTMuscle
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03-04-2006, 10:47 AM #14
and no, there aren't any children.
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03-04-2006, 10:48 AM #15
Honestly, If you never once cheated on her I say go ahead and seek retribution, no problem, but seeing as though you cheated one her it seems kind of feeble to go and do that, just my opinion though.
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03-04-2006, 10:48 AM #16Originally Posted by bigbouncinballs
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03-04-2006, 10:49 AM #17Originally Posted by Testsubject
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03-04-2006, 10:52 AM #18Originally Posted by DamnYouMSN
what about the guys that only hook up with married women? is that now ok?
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03-04-2006, 10:54 AM #19
Bro, it really wont solve anything, but know how you feel, anger isnt easily supressed...
My girl left this morning, gave me a choice I didnt want to make, she made it for me. Right now im a rage, shaking while I type, i'd like to kill someone.
Do what im going to do, go the gym. Forget about her, forget about him, forget about all the shit that pisses you off and just keep moving forward with your life/goals/family.
Try to turn that anger into something worthwhile bro, and good luck.
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03-04-2006, 10:55 AM #20
well now that's just a home wrecker.... but man how much do you guys really love each other to be continually cheating on one another?
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03-04-2006, 10:55 AM #21
you guys need some Dr.Phil
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03-04-2006, 10:56 AM #22Originally Posted by Evil Predator
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03-04-2006, 10:58 AM #23Originally Posted by DamnYouMSN
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03-04-2006, 11:04 AM #24Originally Posted by bigbouncinballs
Let me rephrase that for you...
"Spoken like a man trying to hold it together"
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03-04-2006, 11:05 AM #25
if she was the only one cheating, and the guy knew she was married, then you could beat the crap out of that guy and bitchslap ur wife, but since you both cheated its not a good idea. IMO hes not worth going to jail for so i would do what Evil Predator said, and try to turn that anger into something worthwhile.
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03-04-2006, 11:05 AM #26
This is what I would do....you will never trust her in the back of your mind, and she will never trust you...this is the foundation to a relationship...I would definitley seperate and not look back, zero phone calls or anything, I would defintley tell the other dudes wife and ruin his marriage just for the sake of it- that would make me feel a little beter...Don't look back if you do your looking for trouble....and you shouldn't get married again if your going to cheat because there's no point. Good luck.
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03-04-2006, 11:06 AM #27Originally Posted by farrebarre
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03-04-2006, 11:07 AM #28
it's a tough situation no matter how you look at it... I suppose if you are willing to forgive her you may as well forgive him.
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03-04-2006, 11:07 AM #29
PS. you have to act like an Alpha male, be in control of your anger, and in the same time show her that ur the man, ur in control and if she cheats again its over.
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03-04-2006, 11:08 AM #30Originally Posted by bigbouncinballs
It gets better im sure, at least thats what I tell myself.
However if I did not have kids I would have moved on quite some time ago.
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03-04-2006, 11:09 AM #31Originally Posted by bigbouncinballs
kind of hipocritical
I think old fashioned took a one way trip out of town once you cheated
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03-04-2006, 11:11 AM #32Originally Posted by speedtraining
I agree with this opinion and a couple other ones but this one is clearly to me what I would do, UNLESS it's cheaper to keeper and you don't have to wprry about her going after any of your shit which in my opinion sucks azz as it's happened to me. Stick it out and pull out slowly making sure she isn't going to take you to court for any of your belonging's.
But if you really love her then you both need some help to work shit out. Just my 2 cents
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03-04-2006, 11:13 AM #33Originally Posted by bigbouncinballs
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03-04-2006, 11:15 AM #34Originally Posted by Mealticket
Do not covet thy neighbors wife is a commandment.
You can still honor and love your wife if you are unfaithful.
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03-04-2006, 11:16 AM #35Originally Posted by bigbouncinballs
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03-04-2006, 11:16 AM #36Originally Posted by Mealticket
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03-04-2006, 11:17 AM #37Banned
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Tough call, with your wife if you both do it so be it, but the guy, did he know you, if so fuc him up, if not, yoke him up by his neck tell him next time your going to put him in ICU. JMO
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03-04-2006, 11:19 AM #38Originally Posted by RJstrong
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03-04-2006, 11:19 AM #39
Mature advice - You should get divorced, and neither of you re-marry anyone until you know you will be faithful.
Also, you should both talk to a professional about your mental states and habits.
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03-04-2006, 11:21 AM #40Originally Posted by sp9
thats it....and any one who says other wise is setting you up for more emotional drama.
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