Ask DSM anything.

[austinite]

DSM,

Is it inappropriate to turn down a dinner invitation from a friend and his wife, twice in row? Just bad timing really, I enjoy their company, but I don't want them to think I'm avoiding them.

[Sfla80]

Cut hair or leave it grow longer? Baring in mind I have the thickest hair known to man. And why are young men dressing like idiots from boybands? When did they get cool? When I was in school you'd get an ass kicking for liking that crap what is the world coming too lol

Dsm Same issue. Shaved my head since I was 12-13 yo. Now 33 and trying to grow long. But extremely thick and curly. Trying to have some sort of style but only looks good when it's wet. When it's dry I look like a clown lol. And only stays wet for so long. Literally can pour a glass of water on my head and it won't even touch the scalp. Fiancé likes it long, but think that's cause it's different.

[DCI]

Lol, mine is useless, but I have found using conditioner when it gets longer helps not to be as how can I put it wild looking lol. My head was never shaved just tidy but I get were you are coming from re thw hair. Outta the shower I don't look like a whoolly mamouth lol

[GirlyGymRat]

Can a heterosexual man and a heterosexual female ever be just best friends? Or does the thought of sex get in the way eventually???

[DSM4Life]

Sorry been away on vacation and disconnected myself from the world on purpose.

Can a heterosexual man and a heterosexual female ever be just best friends? Or does the thought of sex get in the way eventually???

Trust me thoughts of sex have already entered into his mind it all depends on how he handles himself.

DSM,

Is it inappropriate to turn down a dinner invitation from a friend and his wife, twice in row? Just bad timing really, I enjoy their company, but I don't want them to think I'm avoiding them.

It is not but if you really care about the person then explain to them what you did to us about the bad timing part.

[AD]

DSM,

Is it inappropriate to turn down a dinner invitation from a friend and his wife, twice in row? Just bad timing really, I enjoy their company, but I don't want them to think I'm avoiding them.

Suggest meeting up on a day that you're free instead.

[JAB1]

I have a question, you may have answered previously. Are you a psychologist? I am assuming your username is for diagnostic and statistical manual for mental disorders?? If so may be time to update to dsmvlife!!

[lovbyts]

Can a heterosexual man and a heterosexual female ever be just best friends? Or does the thought of sex get in the way eventually???

Trust me thoughts of sex have already entered into his mind it all depends on how he handles himself.

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I have to agree with this. I have a few female friends and they have never been more and also some who once were more but now only friends. 99% of the time there is no thought of sex but there always has been some thoughts at one point or another.

I have friends I would and have never acted on such thoughts but I would never trust any other guy to have the same willpower or whatever you want to call it as myself.

That being said even though there has been thoughts of sex it doesnt mean it will eventually get in the way of anything as long as he knows your intentions and does not try to push the subject or cross the line in any way.

[Shol'va]

DJ Roland Belmares reminds me of Gixxerboy...Could it be? Nah Surely not... Man I need to plan ahead next year and go to one of these. Looks like a whole lotta fun..

[DSM4Life]

I have a question, you may have answered previously. Are you a psychologist? I am assuming your username is for diagnostic and statistical manual for mental disorders?? If so may be time to update to dsmvlife!!

I am not. DSM stands for Diamond Star Motors.

[Zodiac82]

I am not. DSM stands for Diamond Star Motors.

lol are u serious....cant tell if youre jokin....I assumed it stood for somethin else lol

-Release the Kracken!!!-

[DSM4Life]

lol are u serious....cant tell if youre jokin....I assumed it stood for somethin else lol

-Release the Kracken!!!-

Yes I am serious.

Diamond-Star Motors - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

[Zodiac82]

Yes I am serious.

Diamond-Star Motors - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

no I know thats a real company.... I just assumed it always meant somethin else

-Release the Kracken!!!-

[DSM4Life]

[tigerspawn]

Why is it easy for people to believe bro science? I believe in what can be proved and not in what people tell me. Why is it so hard for people to disregard bro science when scientific proof is presented to them?

[tigerspawn]

Can a heterosexual man and a heterosexual female ever be just best friends? Or does the thought of sex get in the way eventually???

I would hope so. I have several female friends and I have never had any sexual thoughts about any of them.

[DSM4Life]

Why is it easy for people to believe bro science? I believe in what can be proved and not in what people tell me. Why is it so hard for people to disregard bro science when scientific proof is presented to them?

Bro Science - YouTube

[lovbyts]

Why is it easy for people to believe bro science? I believe in what can be proved and not in what people tell me. Why is it so hard for people to disregard bro science when scientific proof is presented to them?

Most science was Bro science at one time.

Germs were considered a joke (bro science) because you could not see them. There was no need to disinfect surgical equipment or wash hands.

Dont be to quick to disregard bro science, just use some common sense.

[lovbyts]

I would hope so. I have several female friends and I have never had any sexual thoughts about any of them.

Your Gay.
Or your lying
OR they are not attractive to you in any way.

[RaginCajun]

Your Gay.
Or your lying
OR they are not attractive to you in any way.

This

[crazy mike]

Whatever blows your skirt up. Some things aren't that good in a picture. ...crazy mike

[tigerspawn]

they are not attractive to you in any way.

No they are attractive. I treat them like my sisters. When it becomes something more I stop being friends with them.

[lovbyts]

No they are attractive. I treat them like my sisters. When it becomes something more I stop being friends with them.

The question was not about it becoming more or something happening but just the thought. It's hard to imagine being a guy not having a sexual though about a female (especially an attractive one) friend in some way.

Being a sister and being like a sister are very different unless you live in Arkansas. Then they go with the rule; incest is best. lol

[DSM4Life]

[Euroholic]

Do you think dlb is the female version of zzyyzz?????

[Euroholic]

Lionel Richie or Michael jackson?

[Euroholic]

should i feel like a conquerer and walk with my head held high when i visit japan? Seeing as we whipped them?

[Euroholic]

Whats your fav test ester?

[Euroholic]

Electric light orchestra or fleet wood mac?

[Euroholic]

As a gay person do you think gays should have the right to marry? Or do you feel that marriage should not be for gays?

[Euroholic]

What colour is crocodile blood?

[bdos]

DSM why is euro the way he is?

[RaginCajun]

What colour is crocodile blood?

Alligators are ornery because they have all those teeth and no tooth brush

[DSM4Life]

DSM why is euro the way he is?

Sexually frustrated.

What colour is crocodile blood?

Blue

As a gay person do you think gays should have the right to marry? Or do you feel that marriage should not be for gays?

After seeing how much a wedding costs, I no longer want the right to marry.

Electric light orchestra or fleet wood mac?

Fleet wood mac

Whats your fav test ester?

E

should i feel like a conquerer and walk with my head held high when i visit japan? Seeing as we whipped them?

Yes.

Lionel Richie or Michael jackson?

Lionel Richie

Do you think dlb is the female version of zzyyzz?????

Nope

[Euroholic]

Finealy i can get some sleep now that youve awnsered my questions!!!!!

[Euroholic]

Was that Lionel Richie Michael Jackson question the toughest choice of your life? I dont think i could pick there both so awsome!!!!!

[DSM4Life]

Was that Lionel Richie Michael Jackson question the toughest choice of your life? I dont think i could pick there both so awsome!!!!!

Nope.

[crazy mike]

Nope.

You know my Av's show my cat, my boat, my physique, my competitive waterskiing and maybe something funny once in a while. My motive is to show my interest in sports and my achievements in the sport. Maybe my liking to "Volvo's " mine. I try not to get out of what others would take offense, or just think it is in bad taste or just something controversial. Even could be controversial. Example, for me, I wouldn't post a pic of me and my gun ( I don't have one) because it could offend someone who is against guns and maybe had someone thy knew die by being shot.
I don't think anyone is going o be hurt, argue over, or be offended by my outrageous power boat, Volvo, etc...
So I ask, Why post an intimate picture of that nature. What does it say to people and more over what is your motive. I think, I hope I have explained my motive, like hey everyone, check this out and I think it is a common ground.
So I do respectfully ask this motive question.. ...crazy mike
By the way, I'm not a conservative but there is a time and a place. Just me ya know.....

[DSM4Life]

You know my Av's show my cat, my boat, my physique, my competitive waterskiing and maybe something funny once in a while. My motive is to show my interest in sports and my achievements in the sport. Maybe my liking to "Volvo's " mine. I try not to get out of what others would take offense, or just think it is in bad taste or just something controversial. Even could be controversial. Example, for me, I wouldn't post a pic of me and my gun ( I don't have one) because it could offend someone who is against guns and maybe had someone thy knew die by being shot.
I don't think anyone is going o be hurt, argue over, or be offended by my outrageous power boat, Volvo, etc...
So I ask, Why post an intimate picture of that nature. What does it say to people and more over what is your motive. I think, I hope I have explained my motive, like hey everyone, check this out and I think it is a common ground.
So I do respectfully ask this motive question.. ...crazy mike
By the way, I'm not a conservative but there is a time and a place. Just me ya know.....

It shows my interest in men just like people have AV of half naked women to show their interest in the female body? Should I be offended because they have pictures of something/someone I do not find attractive? Should their rights to post an attractive women be taken away because I don't like it?

"I try not to get out of what others would take offense, or just think it is in bad taste or just something controversial"

So your saying that me posting a picture of a man and a man is bad taste or controversial? Really because I have chosen to live the rest of my life with another man. We together have being raising/supporting two nieces , we have a home together, we are active members of the community, plans to get married and also future plans to raise children. If someone see's that as something negative then it's them who has the problem.

"Why post an intimate picture of that nature"
Because I find the display of love to be something positive in a world full of negative.

"What does it say to people and more over what is your motive"
It says to people that gay people are among the bodybuilding community. For some it says, there is someone just like me out there living his life proud. Maybe it will even provide someone who thinks they are on the outside looking in a different view.

Any other questions?

[crazy mike]

Yes DSM. You take a stance that I might (or anyone) might think lower of you as in the statement that you are raising and helping to raise a child, what you do in the community. You see you show defense by those come backs. You don't know if I respect you or not. What you do as being good parents, God parents, or own a home etc...has NOTHING to do with what I ask or your posted Pic. What I see and thought before, you now confirm by your defensive attitude. That is that the picture is not about love in general, it is a flaunting of life style. You infer that the life is not controversial, WHAT ? Why are we blasted everyday with the CONTROVERSY of gay marriage. What!!! I say again. With all the talk, debates as to born that way and just all the debating, try to tell me there isn't, then yes, it is in bad taste. You can't tell me WITH 100% honesty, now look inside and think of your motive, that you didn't post the intimacy of a kiss to be a post of your life style. A flaunting of it. I don't have anything to prove or show off to have myself kissing my wife on my Av. I think everyone assumes that we love each other and we are intimate. As far as even posting the boobs etc..
and cleavage by some is seen everywhere. Even formal situations, it is not SO controversial except that some don't like to see boobs, but it is a typical everyday pics as you see on advertisements etc... It's the possible motive and flaunting. A pic of a walk on the beach with a sunset in the background would even say more than just LOVE. The shy the beach and on and on. So is this just an innocent pic of a couple in love on a bodybuilding forum which shows nice bodies. Or is it a statement, in a highly emotional subject to many. I will end with this, I don't give a hoot who in in who's pants and is or is not gay, but I am offended by the flaunting which so many gays do. You can tell the one's that flaunt with their walk, hand gestures and speech when being just so exaggerated for the attention. That's not life style that's a show. ...crazy mike
I have said my peace and have to get gone to the gym NOW. So I'll see if you comment but I'll be closed with this, it is what it is. Be back this evening...