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    Oh as for loosing things if you can prove infidelity you wont loose much bro!! YOu prove she is having a relationship with another person either male or female and you will get most of your stuff. Judges dont like the cheating kind neither do jurys.


    By the way in my last post I ment to have admin delete the entire thread. Dont do anything to the guy if you want to prove infidelity as then it wont matter with this thread since its been noted you know about it and have had plenty of time to think about what to do. Cant exactly make a plea of insanity when you have days or even weeks to think about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BJJ View Post
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    Who gives you the right to call her a whore?
    3 Posts and you already showed a glimpse of yourself.


    She cheated and lied to him.


    Should I apologize for calling her a whore and call her a sweetie instead?

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    It's all just a bunch of BS drama more than likely until she gets a more solid foundation to leave. Trust me I am learning it right now.

    My wife called yesterday wanting to come over and 'talk about our child'...I refused to let her, and all the 1 hr conversation turned into was her telling me everyone she thinks I'm banging. She did what she did, she wanted the divorce why should it matter?

    Point being, girls don't want to lose that security blanket they see in you, but they dont necessarily want to be with you either. She is sneaking behind your back in one way or the other, and it's all going to boil down to how much you can stand to be walked on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ♥Purity♣ View Post
    She cheated and lied to him.


    Should I apologize for calling her a whore and call her a sweetie instead?
    Whatever she did it was not meant to hurt or offend your person, so you have no right to insult.

    4 Posts and counting...

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    OH I tried to resist from posting in this damn thread but I just cant help myself. Haz I get what your saying. I agree and she should put more effort into it too. More that him anyway...but I still stick with my first point, both of you have to work at it for it to be worth anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stigmata101 View Post
    LMFAO....good point. If things don't work out I might actually try that.
    no u wont........

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stigmata101 View Post
    ya I know what your sayin, I mean didn't the guy break some sort of "man law" that states you don't fuk around with a married mans wife? I know it's just as much her fault as it is his and this is why I figure I at least owe the guy a shot to the head if nothing else. But on the other hand if he deserves one then doesn't she? And I'm not about to hit my wife.........
    u live close by let me and KP know we can go beat his ass......

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinalynn View Post
    OH I tried to resist from posting in this damn thread but I just cant help myself. Haz I get what your saying. I agree and she should put more effort into it too. More that him anyway...but I still stick with my first point, both of you have to work at it for it to be worth anything.
    Absolutely agree. One can not give 95% and the other give 5%

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinalynn View Post
    OH I tried to resist from posting in this damn thread but I just cant help myself. Haz I get what your saying. I agree and she should put more effort into it too. More that him anyway...but I still stick with my first point, both of you have to work at it for it to be worth anything.
    isnt it hypocrite of you to say if u were in the same situation u will leave Tai but giving him advise of making up????
    Also she cheated on him and u r telling him to be nice to her and suck up to her???? I am confused I thought it was suppose to be other way around......did the rules changed and no one told me?
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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    Absolutely agree. One can not give 95% and the other give 5%
    they normally scream even when I give them 95%......whats up with that???

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    Blinded by Love.....thats all I gotta say about that Stig.

    The "loves you but is not in love with you" line...translates to

    I'm losing interest in our realtionship entirely but I want to let you down easy.

    Leave her pathetic ass bro....you will be much happier in the long run!

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    Quote Originally Posted by vanduhl View Post
    Blinded by Love.....thats all I gotta say about that Stig.

    The "loves you but is not in love with you" line...translates to

    I'm losing interest in our realtionship entirely but I want to let you down easy.

    Leave her pathetic ass bro....you will be much happier in the long run!
    Agreed! Over time you will feel better. It's not the best day for me to say that, I seen my wife for the first time since everything happened a month ago, where we could actually sit down and talk a little about anything and everything that happened.

    So, today I have been a mixed emotion basketcase and kinda want to hang myself, not to be taken literal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    isnt it hypocrite of you to say if u were in the same situation u will leave Tai but giving him advise of making up????
    Also she cheated on him and u r telling him to be nice to her and suck up to her???? I am confused I thought it was suppose to be other way around......did the rules changed and no one told me?
    Oh Cal you kill me! To make it work and to make up are two different things. I am sayin it takes two to make things work, no matter who is in the wrong. I do think she should be doing something extra special..to make up. I did not see where she actually cheated, NOR do I see where she wanted to end it. I did not see where he wanted it to be over.. So yes if they both want it to work I give adivse on how to make it work. I am hopeless when it comes to love, I believe there is a chance as long as both parties are willing to give it a chance. I have given my advise based on the fact that both of them want to work it out. I dont get where you are not seeing that.

    I said if i were in her position I would have left before I cheated..however if I was the one who was cheated on...I would prolly stay, and try to work it out. I dont give up..its a very bittersweet quality I have.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinalynn View Post
    I dont give up..its a very bittersweet quality I have.
    What do you do if they have already given up on you?

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    I do what I told Stig to do.. I did it in my first marriage.. He loves me and wants me back to this day..The reason we divorced was bc I wanted what was best for my daughter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinalynn View Post
    I do what I told Stig to do.. I did it in my first marriage.. He loves me and wants me back to this day..The reason we divorced was bc I wanted what was best for my daughter.
    How was your daughter not being with her father also not best for her? I think we need some details...That can mean many many things. Husband with more $$$, better provider? or was her father dangerous in some way? Does she get to visit with him now?
    Most of the time when someone says something like that it's just and excuse and it's still about them.

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    He was abusive to me, and if you look at a thread I posted FML, it kinda tells that he just hit her. He used to have visitaion, but now he only has supervised visitation. I he was my first love and I thought he would get better, until one day he was abusive in front of my baby girl. I left him shortly after that. I don't want my daughter to think its ok for a man to hit a woman.
    I am a very independent woman, I bought my first house at 20, I have had the same job for 8 years.. I provide for my daughter just fine on my own. As a matter of face I am having a hard time quitting my job now bc I don't want to completley depend on my bf.

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    Wise move. Always look in what is in your child's best interest, along with yours.

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    Well in my case I happened to get one of them "runner" girls. You know the ones who are temporarily happy, then lose interest and run, usually back to an ex. Last time it was to her still technically married husband, then she ran back to me a month later. Now 2.5 yrs later, I dunno who she has ran to, don't really care.

    My problem is, I was great to her, gave her everything she wanted, I was a super father, always put my family first, our chemistry (both communication and sexually) used to be dynamic...but she lost in interest in me all the same. Only thing is, it took 2.5 yrs to lose it in me, not just in a matter of months like everyone else. Then again she had a lot to gain from me. I was supporting her and my stepson and putting her thru school.

    Point being, it was NOT in the best interest of our children for her to do what she did and walk out. Even if nothing was real to start with, which in 3 yrs I feel something had to be atleast - when we had a child and she had a good thing going, she definitely shouldn't have left. I understand she wasn't as happy, but had no reason not to be...but it was still something we could have probably worked thru. Hell the worst was over, her schooling was out, we were fixing to have two incomes - then she bounced.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinalynn View Post
    He was abusive to me, and if you look at a thread I posted FML, it kinda tells that he just hit her. He used to have visitaion, but now he only has supervised visitation. I he was my first love and I thought he would get better, until one day he was abusive in front of my baby girl. I left him shortly after that. I don't want my daughter to think its ok for a man to hit a woman.
    I am a very independent woman, I bought my first house at 20, I have had the same job for 8 years.. I provide for my daughter just fine on my own. As a matter of face I am having a hard time quitting my job now bc I don't want to completley depend on my bf.
    OK with those fact I agree with you 100% but that is not usually the case. Im sure you now most of the time the child is used as a took and I believe 90% of the accusations against men in divorce are made up only for leverage for the woman to get more and try to destroy him.

    I have been through similar. I divorced to save my daughter. I did what I could to help her but after my daughter was born and put in harms way due to her drug use it was over, no looking back. It took 1 1/2 years due to the BS games and accusations but I got custody in the end even before her accidental suicide....

    Some people just suck. Some people just have no moral right and wrong or empathy for others. I will never understand how anyone can be like that but they are out there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    OK with those fact I agree with you 100% but that is not usually the case. Im sure you now most of the time the child is used as a took and I believe 90% of the accusations against men in divorce are made up only for leverage for the woman to get more and try to destroy him.

    I have been through similar. I divorced to save my daughter. I did what I could to help her but after my daughter was born and put in harms way due to her drug use it was over, no looking back. It took 1 1/2 years due to the BS games and accusations but I got custody in the end even before her accidental suicide....

    Some people just suck. Some people just have no moral right and wrong or empathy for others. I will never understand how anyone can be like that but they are out there.
    This is how I feel about my situation. When a wife tells you that you did nothing wrong, she will probably just never be happy, but yet feels its right to me that I gave her and her son and our daughter everything a loving home should have, and in the end she walks away with her RN job and doesn't look back. No care for the financial burden she has left on me, no care that she has taken her daughter from a loving home, nothing. All to satisfy her, who rightfully admits she will never be happy. That's a sick person. Hindsight is 20/20 tho, looking back we should have never got back together. What at one point seemed like the perfect marriage to me, I now wonder if anything was real at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    This is how I feel about my situation. When a wife tells you that you did nothing wrong, she will probably just never be happy, but yet feels its right to me that I gave her and her son and our daughter everything a loving home should have, and in the end she walks away with her RN job and doesn't look back. No care for the financial burden she has left on me, no care that she has taken her daughter from a loving home, nothing. All to satisfy her, who rightfully admits she will never be happy. That's a sick person. Hindsight is 20/20 tho, looking back we should have never got back together. What at one point seemed like the perfect marriage to me, I now wonder if anything was real at all.
    Yup, I have head that same story many times over. I cant figure it out except for someone being Evil and purposely using the other person. It's hard to imagine but there are people who think it's OK to do that just like there are many women who are getting divorced and will do anything to destroy her ex even if he has not done anything wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    Yup, I have head that same story many times over. I cant figure it out except for someone being Evil and purposely using the other person. It's hard to imagine but there are people who think it's OK to do that just like there are many women who are getting divorced and will do anything to destroy her ex even if he has not done anything wrong.
    Seems she was out to do this to me as well, until i agreed to the terms she wanted for custody, just like now she wants to keep my daughter on my insurance only because it benefits her - she wont have to pay to carry it. Everything is all about her, and for the most part always has been. I would say maybe originally getting together, rather i started as a rebound or not, was maybe real. But, any point past that I don't believe too much in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    Seems she was out to do this to me as well, until i agreed to the terms she wanted for custody, just like now she wants to keep my daughter on my insurance only because it benefits her - she wont have to pay to carry it. Everything is all about her, and for the most part always has been. I would say maybe originally getting together, rather i started as a rebound or not, was maybe real. But, any point past that I don't believe too much in.
    Unfortunatly many women are tought and raised to believe that men are their 401K retirement plan and that is the sole purpose of getting married. That's why when they find someone with a fatter wallet they are so quick to trade up.

    We (men) are taut how it's supposed to be about love and commitment, how women want love and romance and a sense of security when in fact a lot of the time it's only about the $$$$.

    How many guys do you know that after getting married the wife's legs crossed and the sex all but stopped? I know a few. that is nothing less than a game/power play by women. Luckily that never happened to me but I have also let it be known clearly that if it was done I'm finished and I will be finding it somewhere else.

    Even good women need to be treated like children sometimes and have their hands slapped or butts spanked when they get out of line and stop being a wife. They need reminded/told they are NOT living up to their end of the agreement and they look bad. This only works on the good ones because they will understand and get back in line. It's like little kids; they like to push the boundaries. The bad ones wont care and will try to do a power play. Yes girls, this may not be 100% of everyone. There are exceptions to ever rule.

    I learned to tell when my first wife was lying to me, her mouth would move. She was the same way. Everything about her was a lie I found out after getting married. The sad part was her mother backed up her lies 100% and father to a point. I will still never understand how someone can be like that and live with themselves but then maybe that's why she died from accidental suicide????

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    Unfortunatly many women are tought and raised to believe that men are their 401K retirement plan and that is the sole purpose of getting married. That's why when they find someone with a fatter wallet they are so quick to trade up.

    We (men) are taut how it's supposed to be about love and commitment, how women want love and romance and a sense of security when in fact a lot of the time it's only about the $$$$.

    How many guys do you know that after getting married the wife's legs crossed and the sex all but stopped? I know a few. that is nothing less than a game/power play by women. Luckily that never happened to me but I have also let it be known clearly that if it was done I'm finished and I will be finding it somewhere else.

    Even good women need to be treated like children sometimes and have their hands slapped or butts spanked when they get out of line and stop being a wife. They need reminded/told they are NOT living up to their end of the agreement and they look bad. This only works on the good ones because they will understand and get back in line. It's like little kids; they like to push the boundaries. The bad ones wont care and will try to do a power play. Yes girls, this may not be 100% of everyone. There are exceptions to ever rule.

    I learned to tell when my first wife was lying to me, her mouth would move. She was the same way. Everything about her was a lie I found out after getting married. The sad part was her mother backed up her lies 100% and father to a point. I will still never understand how someone can be like that and live with themselves but then maybe that's why she died from accidental suicide????
    It's funny you mention the money thing because I told my wife she chases what she feels is the better opportunity, which she does. Now who she falls back on is another story, but thats only temporary. The dude I caught her talking about fvcking 8 yrs ago, is the same guy she had come home making fun of because he was talking about how he couldn't believe a girl left him when she "had a rich boyfriend, what else does she want?" Funny how you come to find out that they did screw, when I was clearly told they never had. What do you think she really saw in this dude? I can tell you - the fact that his parents house covered the whole block! Had nothing to do with that kid at all.

    As for the sex part, it was really hard to tell on my end. Yeah the last 6 months u can count on one hand how many times I got it...but before that we always made time for it. But due to busy lives (school for her, long ass work hrs for me, kids, newborn, etc)...we didnt have a chance to bang like rabbits ya know. But I think the routine life is what made her lose her interest in me, along with the fact she put me bankrupt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    It's funny you mention the money thing because I told my wife she chases what she feels is the better opportunity, which she does. Now who she falls back on is another story, but thats only temporary. The dude I caught her talking about fvcking 8 yrs ago, is the same guy she had come home making fun of because he was talking about how he couldn't believe a girl left him when she "had a rich boyfriend, what else does she want?" Funny how you come to find out that they did screw, when I was clearly told they never had. What do you think she really saw in this dude? I can tell you - the fact that his parents house covered the whole block! Had nothing to do with that kid at all.

    As for the sex part, it was really hard to tell on my end. Yeah the last 6 months u can count on one hand how many times I got it...but before that we always made time for it. But due to busy lives (school for her, long ass work hrs for me, kids, newborn, etc)...we didnt have a chance to bang like rabbits ya know. But I think the routine life is what made her lose her interest in me, along with the fact she put me bankrupt.
    Im sure it had nothing to do with the routine, it was just her time to move again but yeah the fact she had drained you probably was part of it. Some women just never stop and will NEVER be satisfied. It's best to separate yourself as much as possible or she will continue to use you and hurt you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    Im sure it had nothing to do with the routine, it was just her time to move again but yeah the fact she had drained you probably was part of it. Some women just never stop and will NEVER be satisfied. It's best to separate yourself as much as possible or she will continue to use you and hurt you.
    You may be correct. I say the routine life because she started acting so miserable, and nothing caused any of it. I figured it was all of our finance problems along with the married life - cooking, cleaning, watching kids...which she still has to do, but right now she is living with her mom, so she doesnt do it by herself if at all. But when we got together, we were fine financially, SHE decided to go to school, she knew it was going to be hard for the next two yrs. Of course her excuse was "I didnt know it was going to be this hard to tear our marriage apart". Like I said, I feel used, any man in my shoes would feel that way. She was a 'runner' to begin with, and will probably always be one. One way or the other, you don't destroy peoples lives like she did mine and our childs rather she thinks that or not, and get away with it. Everything I poured into us, the universe has its own way of unfolding. She will get hers one way or another, I do not worry about that.

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    Karma has a way of coming around; unfortunately most of the time we never get to see it in work.
    Unfortunately due to the kids you cant separate yourself 100% unless you can catch her in a moment of weakness and she gives up all rights to you. Let her decide through reverse psychology that she the kids are just holding her back and it would be easier for her without them and worse on your. Once you get them quietly make it official if at all possible.

    I had a friend who found out his wife was going to divorce him and try to take everything. He quickly and quietly hid assets and liquidated. She still initially got 3x what she should have but in the end when she could not get EVERYTHING and destroy him it drove her crazy to the point she lost 90% custody and ended up being institutionalized for a while. He played it cool, never got upset and worked the system.

    Same basic thing with my wife. Maybe that's why she cracked at the end?

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    Karma has a way of coming around; unfortunately most of the time we never get to see it in work.
    Unfortunately due to the kids you cant separate yourself 100% unless you can catch her in a moment of weakness and she gives up all rights to you. Let her decide through reverse psychology that she the kids are just holding her back and it would be easier for her without them and worse on your. Once you get them quietly make it official if at all possible.

    I had a friend who found out his wife was going to divorce him and try to take everything. He quickly and quietly hid assets and liquidated. She still initially got 3x what she should have but in the end when she could not get EVERYTHING and destroy him it drove her crazy to the point she lost 90% custody and ended up being institutionalized for a while. He played it cool, never got upset and worked the system.

    Same basic thing with my wife. Maybe that's why she cracked at the end?
    I had an ex who I was engaged to after dating 4 yrs, ended in a bad way. These days she is getting married, but I just heard last week she is not over me still, so I guess thats Karma at work haha.

    My wife isn't going to give up the kids, but I be damn if she is going to drag my daughter man to man like she did with her son. It will be noted in a court order, that she is not to live with a man unless they are married. If a man is to stay the night, it will be on nights my daughter is not there. I thought about throwing in that if the contract is breached when it comes to that, then I am to be awarded full custody of our child.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    no u wont........
    your right i won't

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    Quote Originally Posted by ♥Purity♣ View Post
    She cheated and lied to him.


    Should I apologize for calling her a whore and call her a sweetie instead?
    you should apologize for wasting bandwidth for your "intelligent" comments.

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    So has she been good still? Are you still keepin tabs on her texts?

    I had been watching this but didnt really know what to say that everyone else didnt already tell you.

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    Hmm, this thread again.

    Well, nothing in life is black and white. It's easy to tarnish Stigs wife as a cheat, a liar, and so on, and call this third person a bastard and that he deserves his head kicked in and that Stig is hard done by (I dont mean that in a harsh way, but you'll see what I mean in this post). But every story has two sides to tell.

    There are two types of cheaters in my opinion. Manipulative cheaters who do what they do because they can and think they are smart and clever, and then there are unhappy cheaters.

    The former are a waste of time, the latter....well they do what they do because they are unhappy. Is it wrong? Well you have to ask yourself what is going on in the current relationship that makes the other person so unhappy, that they seek happiness elsewhere.

    Problem is, people dont talk, there is no communication and often one person in a relationship simply will not change.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flagg View Post
    Hmm, this thread again.

    Well, nothing in life is black and white. It's easy to tarnish Stigs wife as a cheat, a liar, and so on, and call this third person a bastard and that he deserves his head kicked in and that Stig is hard done by (I dont mean that in a harsh way, but you'll see what I mean in this post). But every story has two sides to tell.

    There are two types of cheaters in my opinion. Manipulative cheaters who do what they do because they can and think they are smart and clever, and then there are unhappy cheaters.

    The former are a waste of time, the latter....well they do what they do because they are unhappy. Is it wrong? Well you have to ask yourself what is going on in the current relationship that makes the other person so unhappy, that they seek happiness elsewhere.

    Problem is, people dont talk, there is no communication and often one person in a relationship simply will not change.
    Well my wife was an unhappy cheater. She may not have cheated physically, but what she did is all the same to me. But, as far as communication goes, she seems to think us having too many talks is what made her hate being married to me. Mind you the talks only happened after she stated she was unhappy, but whenever there was a problem I addressed it. She says maybe that's her fault for letting 'little things add up'.

    But, to me its horse shit. It's the same bullshit story I heard the first time we dated when she shafted me to run around with her ex husband, only to come right back. If they are a dirty skank whore cheater, no matter how 'hot' they may look - they will always do it. Matter of fact, her ex husband caught her doing the same shit I did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    Well my wife was an unhappy cheater. She may not have cheated physically, but what she did is all the same to me. But, as far as communication goes, she seems to think us having too many talks is what made her hate being married to me. Mind you the talks only happened after she stated she was unhappy, but whenever there was a problem I addressed it. She says maybe that's her fault for letting 'little things add up'.

    But, to me its horse shit. It's the same bullshit story I heard the first time we dated when she shafted me to run around with her ex husband, only to come right back. If they are a dirty skank whore cheater, no matter how 'hot' they may look - they will always do it. Matter of fact, her ex husband caught her doing the same shit I did.
    When you say "there was a problem, I addressed it" what do you mean? You simply said "right, this is how things are going to be from now on and thats that"? You should both be addressing the issue, not one person fixing stuff and thinking that's the end of it.

    You also say these talks only happened after she said she was unhappy. Well women like to think men are mind readers. The reason she is pissed off is because its only now that she stated she is depressed that you decide to do something about it.

    Im not making excuses for her, or stating that it's all you....but both people are culpable in bad relationships. One person becomes apathetic, while the other becomes frustrated and depressed. But rarely do people talk about it. If someone doesnt want to change, well....you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flagg View Post
    When you say "there was a problem, I addressed it" what do you mean? You simply said "right, this is how things are going to be from now on and thats that"? You should both be addressing the issue, not one person fixing stuff and thinking that's the end of it.

    You also say these talks only happened after she said she was unhappy. Well women like to think men are mind readers. The reason she is pissed off is because its only now that she stated she is depressed that you decide to do something about it.

    Im not making excuses for her, or stating that it's all you....but both people are culpable in bad relationships. One person becomes apathetic, while the other becomes frustrated and depressed. But rarely do people talk about it. If someone doesnt want to change, well....you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.
    I mean whatever she said she had a problem with I corrected it. The bitch just called me and went to my house and took my laptop. I cussed her for everythings she's worth until she brought it back. She wants to sit here and name things from 6-7 months ago that I didnt do right to try and justify her actions. She wants to throw that her son and me never bonded, which hurts the most because I never had the TIME to dedicate to him. She said even her dad said I rode his ass all the time. Which, I dont EVER remember riding his ass in front of her family, ever. But, he was a boy, he was hardheaded. She wanted me to discipline him, and when I do, now that we are separated I never bonded, thats one reason she left etc....bullshit.

    I loved that kid like my own, I hated that I had to get on him so much, but like I told her guess what? You said him and your ex bonded well towards the end of you breaking up, didn't stop you from leaving him did it? Hell if you want to get technical, and you want to worry about who bonds with your son the most, in that case you should have stayed with his FATHER. Fvcking bitch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    I mean whatever she said she had a problem with I corrected it. The bitch just called me and went to my house and took my laptop. I cussed her for everythings she's worth until she brought it back. She wants to sit here and name things from 6-7 months ago that I didnt do right to try and justify her actions. She wants to throw that her son and me never bonded, which hurts the most because I never had the TIME to dedicate to him. She said even her dad said I rode his ass all the time. Which, I dont EVER remember riding his ass in front of her family, ever. But, he was a boy, he was hardheaded. She wanted me to discipline him, and when I do, now that we are separated I never bonded, thats one reason she left etc....bullshit.

    I loved that kid like my own, I hated that I had to get on him so much, but like I told her guess what? You said him and your ex bonded well towards the end of you breaking up, didn't stop you from leaving him did it? Hell if you want to get technical, and you want to worry about who bonds with your son the most, in that case you should have stayed with his FATHER. Fvcking bitch.
    wow she knows how to push ur button and the worse thing is that u r letting her get away with it......she will keep fvcking with u till u shut her up for good. I told u b4 and telling u again ....move on and yes she will try everything to keep her hanging around but as a person u need to make a decision to move on.....that all i am going to say to u. No matter what u do is good enough and thats how its going to be till u kick her ass...next time when she come to see u just tell her its looks like she gained weight......

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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    Well my wife was an unhappy cheater. She may not have cheated physically, but what she did is all the same to me. But, as far as communication goes, she seems to think us having too many talks is what made her hate being married to me. Mind you the talks only happened after she stated she was unhappy, but whenever there was a problem I addressed it. She says maybe that's her fault for letting 'little things add up'.

    But, to me its horse shit. It's the same bullshit story I heard the first time we dated when she shafted me to run around with her ex husband, only to come right back. If they are a dirty skank whore cheater, no matter how 'hot' they may look - they will always do it. Matter of fact, her ex husband caught her doing the same shit I did.
    Great googly moogly... I didn't want to start another fire about all the cheating... just wanted to know how Stig was gettin along...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neevor View Post
    Great googly moogly... I didn't want to start another fire about all the cheating... just wanted to know how Stig was gettin along...
    Sorry about that bro. Phone call just took place and I vented on it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d View Post
    Sorry about that bro. Phone call just took place and I vented on it.
    Ha ha, I read your thread a while back too man. These threads really tug at my heart strings cause I think break ups are much harder for men than women..

    I just deleted the rest of this post and started a thread on it in the Lounge instead.. check it out if you want
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